Rowley: Valerie
January 28, 1944 – July 30, 2016
In the arms of her husband and daughter, Valerie died peacefully in her sun-filled bedroom. Beloved by her father Bill, husband Christopher, daughter Tamsyn and husband James, son Jonathan and wife Paulette, brother Richard and wife Joanne and their sons Richie and Danny. Blessed by grandchildren, Josh, Jess, Jack, Jemma, Juliet and Chanel. Lovingly cared for by sister-in law Joanna and husband Gordon. Please come to our home at 7720 17th Sideroad, Schomberg L0G 1T0 and be with her family anytime on Monday to Wednesday, August 1st to 3rd to share memories, while Valerie rests in a carpet of flowers, overlooking the garden she has tendered for over two decades. At 5:00 pm Wednesday there will be a Celebration of her life at our Home in Schomberg. Please no black and no ties.
Arrangements entrusted to Rod Abrams Funeral Home Tottenham. For more details or to leave a written tribute for Valerie’s family, please visit www.RodAbramsFuneralHome.com.
Valerie’s Bio
Born in 1944 in Harrow Middlesex in England, Valerie always followed a creative path. In 1962 she went to the London College of Printing and Graphic Art. Here she met Christopher and began a love affaire that last for over 50 years – till the day she died. She then joined a documentary film company so she could be a true partner to her filmmaker husband.
Then in 1965, she was married in Johannesberg South Africa. After a cruise back to England she set up home in Old Windsor over looking the Great Park. Here she branched out to become the manager of Manpower in Reading and ran it till the birth of Tamsyn her daughter in 1968.
At Christmas the family journeyed to South Africa to enjoy the summer with her parents and brother Richard. Here she warmed to this new country and soon she and Christopher had a new life and career there. In 1971 a son Jonathan was born. For the next 15 years they lived on a three acre estate with dogs, horses, chicken. With the advent of Television in South Africa, Image Producers, Christopher’s film company prospered.
Unfortunately unrest in the country made the family look for a new home and in 1986, with good career prospects they move to Toronto, Canada.
Always seeking new opportunities, Valerie began a new career, as an Interior Designer . Soon she became very successful with many high profile clients.
By now both children were completing their education – Tamsyn was at Queens University and Jonathan was finishing at Upper Canada College.
Eager to get out of the city they bought a 10 acre horse farm in Schomberg in King Township. Here her first task was to totally redesign the interior of the home.
With the vagaries of the economy there followed their most difficult few years with Valerie sharing the load till Christopher formed CineNova. Back on track, Valerie, the busy Designer, now had her own studio on the property and an assistant Sherry who remained with her for several years.
Once the inside was done she now tackled the garden, Newly planted trees, banks of shrubs and an extensive vegetable garden appeared.
In 1997, Tamsyn married James and followed in 1998 by Jonathan marrying Paulette, both had their receptions on the property.
The lure of greener pastures tempted both siblings to seek new careers on the other side of the world so they headed to Australia. Shortly after, her parents Betty and Bill, left South Africa and also made their home in Australia. Tragically Betty died in December 2006 and so began the many trips she would make to island continent.
In 2010 there were changes. Christopher formed a new film company, Cream Productions Valerie, her career still going strong, her love of animals and particularly dogs, saw a new phase blossom – a dog sport called Schutzhund. Here again she was very successful and over several years reached the top level with two dogs.
Six grand children were born in the Antipides, so followed annual trips across the Pacific, as well as trips to Europe to broaden the mind and body.
In 2013 Valerie decided to retire, having won over a dozen awards with CEDECA for her interiors, to spend her time with husband, friends and family in the home and garden she had built up over 23 years
In July 2015 she and her husband celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary on the same lawns as their children were married surrounded by friends and family. The perfect culmination of her life. How prescient was this event as, within months, she was diagnosed with lung cancer. An operation followed by four months of chemotherapy resulted in a clean bill of health for Valerie. In early 2016 there was a joyous 72 birthday, and family visits. Then tragically cancer struck back, this time in her pancreas. Yet another operation and again a successful one. But it was not to be. Within a month her liver was invaded by cancer cells. Both medical and Naturopathic remedies were employed by to no avail.
At 3:00 am on Friday July 30 Valerie died in her sleep with her husband Christopher and her daughter Tamsyn lying beside her.
So a beautiful, talented, much loved and caring woman passed from this world to the next.
Hayden Sachedina says
I loved Valerie, we went over and talked with er and Christopher many times. I loved watching my late father (Aamer) training with her.
Mary and Derek says
Derek and I were so sad to hear about Valerie’s passing. Our love and thoughts are with Chris, Jonathan, Tamsyn and her much loved grandchildren. Valerie was an amazing role model to her children and her energy, enthusiasm, kindness, strength and love of life lives on to positively influence them through out their lives. Our children considered Valerie as a surrogate aunt as she so generously included us in Christmas dinners and so many memorable get-togethers. She had an inspiring ability to beautify her surroundings with such style and grace. We have very fond memories of walks, going to the theatre, a trip to Ottawa to see a Picasso exhibition, a time together in Atlanta and Vancouver and many more.
Jacqy Frost says
Valerie was such a lovely lady. So kind. So positive. So thoughtful. And a beautiful smile. I remember your champagne wedding party in Pinner all those years ago. Such a lot of fun. I’m just so glad that Geoff and I had the chance to spend that time with you both in Canada in the fall. Jacqy x x
Pete Adams says
My heart goes out to you and your family, Christopher, during this heart wrenching time. My deepest sympathies.
John Whitcher says
Dearest Valerie,
Your sparkling smile, the music of your laughter, the warmth of your spirit will be in our memories forever. A beautiful, strong woman who lived life to the utmost with passion, energy and grace. We miss you. God bless.
John & Doris
Andy Steptoe says
Dear Christopher, Tamsyn and Jonathan,
My deepest sympathies and condolences to you all at this time of loss.
I will always remember Valerie as an enthusiastic, vibrant, positive and energetic person who was always smiling. We worked together for many years up to her retirement on countless projects and I will always remember her fondly.
It was so nice to see you yesterday Christopher and Tamsyn and to catch up, I will be thinking of you today when you have her celebration of her life.
Valerie, you inspired me to be a better person, thank you.
Andy Steptoe and the Steptoe Crew.
Irene and Paul says
Dear Christopher, Tamsyn and Jonathan.
Such a shock to hear that you have lost your beloved Valerie. I am so bad at the facebook communication that I had no idea she was so ill.
My memories of Valerie are of an always smiling vibrant and beautiful woman. I first met her through Chris and the film industry many moons ago,Paul and I went to lunch in I think the big house in Buccleuch, Valerie did a search demo with her dogs and we all sat wine in hand gob smacked and how clever they were ! I think that could well have started my passion for training my own dogs.
When the family moved to Canada we lost touch except for the wonderful Christmas letters that Valerie sent out, the photos of the dogs in the snow and your beautiful home and garden.
Our thoughts are with you,we can only imagine your sadness, may all your memories of Valerie, wife and mother give you strength at this time.
Love and far away hugs to you all. Irene and Paul South Africa.
Ron and Bonnie Whytock says
Our friendship with Valerie and Christopher began 35 years ago when they became our neighbours in Buccleuch, Johannesburg.We were influenced and inspired by herlove of life,her compassion,her love of nature, dogs, birds,cooking,dogs, interior design skills, more dogs. When she left to go to Canada she gave us her bearded collie pup that we took to Singapore where it lived a full life, intrigued and scared many a Singaporean Chinese and after 13 years died in Bonnie’s arms. We will never forget Gizmo, nor will we forget the person who gave him to us. Valerie, we know you are in a good place now-oh boy, don’t you just deserve it- and we have no doubt that you and Christopher will meet again. Sleep well beautiful lady. Your friends Ron and Bonnie
Gary and Margaret Fisher says
Dear Chris and family,
With our sincere sympathy,We are so sorry for your loss.. Valerie was such an inspiration as she transformed our home and often my spirits over the past 20 years. Her encouragement was truly appreciated. Gracious and generous with her time and incredible talents and with a delightful and infectious energy that made her so fun to be with. A truly beautiful person
With love and sadness
Margaret
Patrice Clarkson says
My deepest sympathies and condolences to Christopher and family in the loss of a wonderful, great lady.
Patrice
Daniel & Madeleine Izzard/Wyndels says
First and foremost we both send our deepest and most sincere condolences to Christopher and the entire family. Knowing Valerie from the time of her first arrival in Canada we have remained close friends and colleges over these many years, building a mutual respect and genuine affection for each other. Valerie was an exceptional woman, her energy was colossal, her empathy was boundless, her humour was infectious and above all I can still hear her laughter echoing inside my head. You have left a huge hole in our hearts Valerie, but the memory of all that you brought into the world will make everyone who ever got to know you a much better person. Thank you so much Valerie, we love you always. Daniel and Madeleine Izzard/Wyndels
Paul & Connie Eyraud says
Our hearts go out to Tamsyn and James. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. All our love
Paul & Lou says
So sorry to this news.Valerie,was true lady of the highest quality. I enjoyed training Valerie & Credo. They were an wonderful team.We achieved what we set out to do, & that was to see them compete on the field. They did , very successfully , achieving their Schutzhund three in 18 months,with several high in trials. Valerie was truly dedicated, & a wonderfull person to work with. She brought joy to everyone she came in contact with.
Our thoughts and prayers to all her family.
Paul & Lou
John & Barbara Bradbury says
So sad to hear about Valerie’s passing and very surprised, she was such a strong person.
I worked with her photographing her interior designs and she was such an energetic, creative and dynamic person!
She was inspiring!
Our thoughts & prayers to all her family.
John & Babs
Jean Szmidt says
If I was allowed just one word to describe Valerie and the impression I had of how she lived, that word would be “passionate” — a wonderful way to live!
It has been a gift to have known Valerie and I smile when I think of her, her contagious laughter and dazzling smile.
I will miss Valerie, her friendship and her presence at yoga.
My condolences to Christopher (another gem) and to her family.
Grace says
Dear Chris and Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. I offer you my deepest condolences. Valerie was always very good to me as a real friend.
Grace
Terry Fenton says
To Chris and family:
I was so sorry to hear about Valerie and both John and I offer our sincere condolences.
Valerie helped decorate our new home and was invaluable. I remember Valerie as fun and lively with a great sense of style.
Unfortunately I am at my cottage hosting 6 grandchildren and will not be able to come to her celebration of life but I will be thinking of her fondly and remembering good times.
Terry Fenton
Gayle and Julius Kiss says
Christopher, Tamsyn, Jonathan and family
We are deeply saddened to hear of Valerie’s passing. May the fond memories of wonderful times you shared as a family help you through the days ahead.
When we think of Valerie it will always be of her intelligence, smiling eyes, and warm embraces.
Nancy Vida says
I am terribly sorry to hear of the passing of Valerie. Valerie and Chris came to my home and purchased a darling little Terv puppy they named Credo, and was greatly loved by them. I could not have asked for a more loving home. RIP Valerie. Prayers to the family.
Denis says
I met Val&Chris at the Saugeen club, Val was truly a great person always eager and willing to help anyone in anyway that she could a joy to be round, a great kind person, will be a great loss to anyone who knew her
Stephen says
Goodbye Valerie,
You are missed…
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight For the ends of being and ideal grace. I love thee to the level of every day’s Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light. I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
Stephen
Stephen says
Goodbye Valerie,
You are missed…
“I love thee to the depth and breadth and height My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight For the ends of being and ideal grace. I love thee to the level of every day’s Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light. I love thee freely, as men strive for right.”
Stephen
Brigita & Mike says
Val, you will be missed by so many people. Our memories of you and your loving Tervs will never be forgotten. You have always exuded elegance and class and never have we known you not to help anyone in need.
We will see each other at the Rainbow Bridge where we can train our Belgians again.
RIP and God Bless you.
Michelle Watkins says
As your former Sister-in-law I have been praying for you (from the side lines). Tamsyn, James and family I was saddened to hear if your Mom’s serious illness, but comforted to know that you were able to spend some precious time with each other in the comfort of their cherished home during this last month. May God and loved ones comfort you during this difficult time. Remembering Valerie fondly.
Afroz Brown says
RIP Valerie. Thank you for being such an amazing friend, and mentor to my late son Aamer Sachedina. Heloved you and always talked very highly off you I always told my son you were his 2nd mom. I guess he missed a lot and now you both will be united. I will always remain grateful for all the love and support you gave my son in his life time. My sincere condolances to the family.
Sandy Galloway says
My love and prayers to the whole family in this difficult time. Valerie was so beautiful, talented and positive. A light in all of her families lives and generously shared that light with us. Never to be forgotten
Margaret and Paul Kawaja says
Valerie—–you had a sparkling energy that was treasured by all of us, including all the animals in you life.
A rare gift indeed.
We have such happy memories of
‘grassy knolls” as we watched our two Jonathan’s row, and the joy we shared over picnics at Henley.
We will miss you so much, and Christopher and all the family, please know you are very much in our hearts.
Maurice & Eudice Rotfarb says
Christopher, Tamsyn & Johnathan we are saddened by the loss of Valerie.
Valerie was a special friend. We have fond memories of our times together.
In our hearts forever.
Wendy Hepworth says
What a lovely cousin. A long time since I have seen Valerie, but will never forget the very trendy leather coat she gave me when I was about 16. A treasured possession that I wore for years. Treasure the lovely memories that you all will have. X x
David Lint says
To Christopher and the family: Sarah and I are sorry that we are away and can’t be with you this week.
I first met Valerie when we formed our film company, CineNova, partnering with Christopher in 1989, more than 25 years ago. Valerie and Chris were such a grounded couple, personally and professionally. And it was immediately obvious that Valerie would be indispensable in helping us launch our little team. Her many positive qualities lifted us all at a challenging time. And her design skills enhanced our offices as we grew.
As the many tributes you are receiving attest, Valerie was so very special. Kind, generous, energetic, vivacious, imaginative, beautiful inside and out. With a family solidly rooted in an international four-generational tree.
A life exceptionally well-lived. We will miss her.
Liz and keith says
So sorry to hear the sad news, Our cousin valerie will be so sadly missed, our thoughts are with all the family at this very sad time xx
Gus & Carol Protopapas says
We are deeply saddened by the passing of our very special and dear friend Valerie.
We will always cherish our fond memories of our good times together.
She will always inspire us with her beauty and grace and will remain forever in our hearts.
Our sincere sympathies to the family.
Our thoughts are with you all, especially Christopher, knowing the wonderful relationship the two of you shared.
David and Vivien Woodward says
Dear Chris, Jonathan and Tamsyn,
First may we say how sad we all are to hear of the news of the passing of Valerie. Although Richard told us that Valerie was seriously ill nobody is actually prepared for when the final moments come. We are all thinking of you and will have you uppermost in our minds over the next few difficult days. All our love, David, Vivien and David Philip
Fay Beresford says
Valerie was a beautiful person. Valerie is in my heart and leaves a presence in my house – on my walls, over the floor and in most of my spaces. I remember the day we met – she was wearing black leather pants! I can never forget Valerie and am thankful we were friends. Valerie was loved by all who knew her. Sending sincere condolences to her wonderful Family and thinking fondly of you all.
Carolyn Norwich says
Valerie was a warm and wonderful person. She was my witness at my marriage and we both enjoyed long and happy marriages. She worked at an employment agency in London for a short time and brought to my attention a job vacancy that resulted in my career in the film industry. Despite being on different continents, friendship endured. Thank you. You were much loved and will always be remembered
Caroline and Ian Gentles says
Words can not express our sorrow at losing our dear dear friend. Valerie was so vibrant and curious, she was fun loving and loving. She loved her husband Christopher dearly and her children, Tamsyn and Jon. She was so happy they married James and Paulette and adored and was so proud of her all her grandchildren who we have been so privileged to meet and enjoy over many years. We are grateful for our friendship and will cherish wonderful memories of our beautiful, generous and extremely creative friends. We already miss you and our hearts go out to your family and particularly Christopher. Regretfully we are in Scotland and are thinking of you all and with you in spirit. We love you Valerie.