Elmer: Thomas Arthur “Tom”
Peacefully on October 4th, 2025 at Southlake Regional Health Centre Newmarket. Tom Elmer at the age of 75 years, loving husband of Kathy Elmer (nee: Burns). Beloved father of Juliana Elmer and Drew Elmer (Dee Furlotte). Caring grandfather to Kiaran, Liadan, Freya, George II, and James. Tom is survived by his mother Sylvia Elmer (the late Ted). Loving brother of Sharon (Greg Murphy), Ray, Faye, Keith (Susan), Brenda, Cindy and predeceased by sister Dorothy. Forever in the hearts of his nieces, nephews, extended family and many friends.
A drop-in Celebration of Life will be held on Friday, October 10th, 2025, from 5pm until 12 midnight at the Royal Canadian Legion Branch #329 (25 Richmond Street East, Tottenham, Ontario). Donations in Tom’s memory to the charity of your choice would be appreciated. Funeral arrangements entrusted to Rod Abrams Funeral Home 905-936-3477. Online memories and condolences may be left for the family at www.RodAbramsFuneralHome.com.
Service
Celebration of Life
Royal Canadian Legion Tottenham Branch #329
25 Richmond St. E. Tottenham, ON L0G 1W0
October 10, 2025
5:00pm - 12:00am
Carolyn Cave (Sheardown) says
So sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. Sending sincere condolences to Kathy and family at this very sad time.
Carolyn Cave (Sheardown)
Sharon L Lance-Murphy says
Thank you Carolyn.
Evelyn Elmer, John Wiederhold and Chris says
Tom’s passing is a loss to all of us. He will be missed. Our condolences to Kathy and family. To Tom’s brothers and sisters we are so sorry for your loss.
As cousins growing up on farms next to each other, there were many hours of fun times together and good memories.
Janet Thomson says
Tommy will be greatly missed as he was a good friend and neighbour to the Thomson family for all of our lives. We send our deepest sympathies to the Elmer family. So very sorry for your loss.
Kay (Watson) Moir says
Sorry to hear of Tom’s passing-thoughts and prayers to his wife,children and grandchildren, brothers and sisters. I attended school with him and Dance Lessons held at the Legion. My family and I delivered Rural Mail to the Family for many years I was glad to see his son took him out west and followed them on Facebook God Bless!
Pauline Bloom says
Dear Kathy and family, I was deeply saddened to hear of Toms passing. Tom is an integral part of my childhood memories of Achill choir concerts (with my mom and dad Ali Leonard and Richard Bloom). And also such a key figure at the front of the Orangepeel Morris dancers, such a talented musician in so many ways. Sending love during this difficult time.
Pauline
Darlene and Bob Sunnerton says
Our sincere condolences and prayers to Kathy and all the Elmer Fsmily. May God Grant you strength and peace during this difficult time. May Tom rest in peace.
Jackie Price says
Dear Cathy and family, My heart is with you. Words can never say how you feel , you have just lost a huge part of your heart. Dave and I will definitely be with you on Friday evening. Be strong your memories will be forever with you .
Julie Haugh Guzzo says
Dear Kathy,
I remember and appreciate greatly all of the work and effort Tom contributed to the Achill Choral Society . My sincere condolences to you and your family. He was a good man!
Patrick and Linda O'Leary says
Sincerest condolences to the Elmer family. Wishing you peace and comfort during this challenging time. Please accept our deepest sympathies.
On behalf of Mom (Eva Wallace), Pat & Linda O’Leary
Faye Elmer says
Thank you Linda.
Laurie Rosie says
Tom was a true gentleman with a gentle spirit, so dedicated to his family.
I will miss him too and send my heartfelt condolences.
Karen Walker says
Faye, Sharon and families, I am so sorry for your loss. I remember Tom when I was a kid, spending tjme at your home. Tom would come to pick up my sister so that she could attend the Tottenham youth group. May your memories forever be a blessing.
Karen Walker
Faye Elmer says
Thank you Karen.
Geri and bill says
So very sorry for your loss Kathy. Condolences to all the family. Have fond memories of Tom and you from the church.
Dawn Callan says
Dear Kathy and family,
I am so saddened by your loss of Tom. He so loved you. He loved life and sharing joy and music and dance.
You are both warm presences in my memory and heart. Where you stay front and centre. I cannot make the long drive due to a broken foot. But I will share a toast Friday as you gather together for Tom.
Kathy – my heart is with you.
Maureen Bayliss says
Rest in Peace Tom, I’ll miss our conversations and sharing your joy of music very much. My deepest condolences to the Elmer family.
Ivor & Ginny Cathcart says
We are so very sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. We offer our sincere condolences to the whole family. Hold your memories close, they are true gifts of one who is loved.
Donna Knapp says
Dear Sharon, I am so very sorry about your Brother passing. My condolences to you and your family.
Anne Goodman says
RIP cousin Tom
My deepest sympathy to your family during this sad time.
With love
Anne
Kim Ellison says
Our condolences to Sharon and families.
Kim & Jeannie Ellison.
Janice Milne says
Sincerest sympathy to Kathy and family at this sad time. I have many memories of concerts with Achill Choral as well as street performances in Tottenham. He will be missed.
Ed Burns says
My heart goes out to you Kathy & Family. I am so sorry to hear about the untimely passing of Tom. I was glad to see he went peacefully. He led a good life and was very vocal about his family when I last saw which was too many years ago. May your thoughts of him be forever cherished.
Velma and Richard Wace says
So Sorry Kathy, Sharon and all your families for your loss. Tom was a great musician and was part of Tottenham United Church for many years. May he rest in Peace.
Eilísh Boston says
Dear Kathy and Family: I was sad to hear of Tom’s passing. I first met Tom 43 years ago when we joined the newly formed Achill Choral Society where he contributed not only his soft Tenor voice but also his musical talent when called upon to conduct and host practices. He was a gentleman and a very talented musician. May he Rest in Peace.
Bob and Evy Vienneau says
We offer our sincere condolence to the whole family
Peggy Trainor says
Dear Kathy and family,
I was so sorry to hear about Tom’s passing. My heart is with you and your family as you navigate this difficult time. I know you are surrounded by love and support, and I hope you find moments of peace and comfort in the days ahead.
With love and sympathy,
Peggy
Barbara Kent says
Kathy, Drew and Julie,Aunt Sylvia, Sharon, Raymond, Faye, Keith, Brenda and Cindy and your families. My heart goes out to you. I have many fond memories of times spent with Tom and his siblings. Growing up living beside each other we were always at each other’s houses. Our deepest condolences to all of you from our house to all of you. I unfortunately will not be able to attend Tom’s celebration of life, but I am definitely there in spirit. All my love, your cousin Barbara
Debbie Creelman (Hopkins) says
R.I.P. Tom. I will truly miss you. You were more than a cousin to me. You were a big brother, a friend and a dear playmate growing up. We shared many happy memories growing up in a large extended and loving family. May you be comforted in the arms of your heavenly family. Keep the music going, love you forever. Big hugs and prayers to all the family